When does passion become preachy…

As you guys know, our life here on The Farm (our urban rental) has made positive changes towards how we would like our life to look.  I love these changes, I love our new life and I love the work and effort we have to put in.  I will talk about it every chance I get, every opportunity.

Not too long ago my best friend brought her new boyfriend down to meet us, and to have dinner.  We had homemade Mexican.  We made the tortillas, the refried beans, the taco seasoning, grew the tomatoes and the spinach, and spent the evening talking about making bread, growing our own vegetables and brewing our own beer.

The next day I asked J if we’d gone overboard.  I wondered out loud, at what point, did talking about our passion become annoying and preachy?

I could talk underwater and at any opening I get, I’m quite happy to go off in a self-sufficiency rant.  I’ll explain to anyone who asks, how to make yoghurt, I’ll talk about what we’ve planted, and what recent dinner’s we’ve cooked with our home grown produce.

Do you have something that you are passionate about?  Something that you’d happily talk about all day?

I explained my fear to my friend, and smiled with her response, “You’re just Clare”, and in fact said that her boyfriend was very interested in what we were doing.  He has a small veggie garden at home and was keen on doing more.   She’s very gracious but I don’t imagine all are.

How do you get around being preachy when you’re so excited about something that is a huge part of your life? Do I just need to pick and choose my audience?

28 thoughts on “When does passion become preachy…

  1. Don’t worry about it, darling. So long as you keep talking about what YOU do, and not what others SHOULD do, then you won’t be preachy. 🙂 We have a deep appreciation for the fact that not everyone’s circumstances are the same as ours, and I try to be very careful not to tell other people what to do, only to share what we do. Hopefully it works!

    1. I’m all about what I do, even when vegetarian I hated talking about why unless someone really wanted the answer. Thanks so much Celia!

  2. I think it’s great that you’re doing this and it’s good to hear that you’re able to grow everything and be self sufficient 🙂 So don’t worry about others and keep doing what you’re doing cuz it’s great!

    1. Thanks Daisy, I just love learning along the way. I’m happy to share with everyone if they want to hear.

  3. Clare, I have noticed that more and more the people around me have changed due to my ranting about our practical way of life. Brewing beer has been a new thing in our household these past few months. Our garden and the weather are now typical conversations and they are all important when you change your lifestyle. The people we have around us now love food and home made beer. Its great to share this with our new kindred spirits. Enjoy the rants, because I would love to listen!

    1. I love you’ve been able to influence change around you! Thanks Lizzie, if only we could sit down for a cuppa!

  4. Its such a fine line I think, regardless of who agrees out loud with me.
    I find it enthralling when someone is so excited about what they are doing and how they are doing it. Like someone mentioned above, as long as its about what you are doing and not what others should be doing, then I think it is A OK. Once people start pushing it all on me as in, I should be doing it, and changing my lifestyle or religion or favourite band, then, sista gonna get mad!
    But, passion is amazing, and if youve got it, then live it.

    1. Meagan, it is such a fine line isn’t it! I’m no good at being told what I should do, so I try not to do that to others.

    1. They were, which was awesome. I was just concerned about that fine line. But it really was a wonderful dinner! With fantastic company.

  5. I completely agree with Celia. If it is about your passion and what you like to do then you are on the right path. You will soon learn the cues if people aren’t interested in what you have to say (watch for the shuffling or eyes glazing over : ) …. Ask me how I know ; ) ). If they ask you questions, they are interested. Continue on the path that suits you and those people that are interested will gravitate towards you. I know how it feels to be passionate about something and just wanting to share it with people. Pretty much the whole reason I started blogging.

    1. It’s so great to be able to share our passions through blogging isn’t it! I means that those who want to hear our rumblings can! I’m careful to watch for the glazing eyes and hope I stop my rambling before that point… But you never know.

  6. I know what you mean Clare but like Celia said, as long as you’re not saying ‘this is what I do and you should do it too cause it’s the only way’ it’s not preachy.
    I have a tough time keeping my mouth shut when people talk about things that I’m totally against but I think if someone asks you or seems interested then talk their head off!
    Consider yourself asked right here.. I want to hear all about everything! Maybe it’s a Claire thing?

    1. Thanks Claire, for you, I will know talk about it all! I can’t wait to share some new adventures with you.

  7. It’s funny I tend to presume people aren’t interested in what I’m doing and so I almost never talk about it (except online of course). The problem with that is that it doesn’t always leave much else to talk about …. especially if the person I’m talking to doesn’t follow the footy…. in a nutshell I agree with Celia – if you’re communicating what you do (as opposed to what others should do) in a passionate way then I think most people will probably either be engaged or change the subject pretty quickly.

    1. I try not to talk, but as soon as I’m asked, then off I go! But I do try to gauge where the other person is at. Mostly it’s j and I talking to each other!

  8. I am a shocker at missing those cues and rambling on about the wonders of food forest gardens, permaculture, home grown produce, plans for goats and all the rest. Unfortunately my husband isn’t much better than I at picking up those clues *blush* but we’re getting better. 🙂 Since our move we have mostly surrounded ourselves with people on a similar path (the friendships have formed due to similar interests I guess) so the conversations are full of dreams and plans for the future from all of us.
    Over Easter we had 2 families over for Easter breakfast and between the 6 of us adults we would have talked enough about plans and dreams and hurdles and everything we’ve faced and will face relating to permaculture, cloth nappies (all parents of young children) and peak oil to talk the hind legs off several donkeys. 😉
    I think, as long as you’re not a full on waffly bore (like I can be) then you should share your passion. If people are asking questions and pursuing the topic then rest assured they are interested in what you’re saying and doing. 🙂

    1. I’d love to find more people near to hear who have these similar interests and then I’d be able to ramble to my hearts content! I generally only start if someone asks a question, but find it difficult to stop once I’ve started…

  9. Clare – a little over a year ago, my brother (a notorious jerk) starting sending me all these texts messages about how talking about what we are doing, on Facebook, made me sound conceited (if you know me, at all, conceited is the last adjective anyone would use). I think it was jealousy, or maybe he was off his happy pills that day? I don’t really know. But I had lots of support from people who were interested in our journey and knew that we loved to share our experiences, but we also don’t preach to anyone about this NEEDING to be the life THEY choose. I’m sure you are doing things just right.

    1. I think that’s the best thing to remember, the fact that you can talk all about it but never tell people what they should do. Your brother sounds silly, I hope you didn’t let it ruin your day!

    1. I’m definitely not hiding my passion, I’m shouting it from the rooftops. I think the key, what I have learnt from all these amazing comments, is that you should never tell people how they should live their lives.

  10. As Jodi said, definitely don’t hide your passion – it will infectious. I am sure you will feel the vibes are off if someone is not interested. It’s all about listening for the cues. You go get ’em, girl!!

    1. Thanks Suzanne! I will defintiely continue to share my passions, but I will just make sure I say that it’s what we do and not what everyone SHOULD be doing!

  11. Wow some great comments here!! And they’re all right – as long as you are passionate about it people see that and it’s not preachy. And if they don’t, well they don’t deserve to be hearing about it so its best to move on and focus your energy elsewhere! I still battle with this with my Arbonne business – it’s obviously about making money but I rely on passion as I couldn’t sell anything to save my life. I mostly just get verbal diarrhoea and they walk away in a daze haha!

    1. Sophie, aren’t the comments just lovely! I think you’re exactly right, it’s trying to find the perfect balance between saying how much you love it and say that others should buy/do it. Masybe we should grab a coffee and talk about finding the balance 🙂

  12. Basically I agree with Meagan…it is a fine line. If your friends were feeling that the conversation was all “you you you” and they didn’t get a chance to discuss their passions and lives at all, then it would be crossing the line. If everyone was having a happy discussion and all felt free to share their opinions and ideas…then it’s all good. And this applies whether you’re talking about self sufficiency or footy or babies. So I’m sure you’re fine and worrying for nothing. 🙂

    1. I was so conscious of shutting my mouth and talking about other things, that I think it was all ok. Thanks so much for your comment.

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